Chaos Theory and ‘The Only One for Me’
By Rion Williams What about ‘is there only ‘one’ for me?’ Well, that is a romantic idea, but reality is…look, there are millions of potential partners around the world. Any of the choices you may could lead to a completely different outcome, lifestyle variation, different kids, etc. We tend to only ’see’ what we have done and the road that we have taken. I want to take a larger scope of things here (which I like doing because it really helps explain things which most people cannot see or understand), but first.. People are also tying too much dependent emotion upon the idea of ‘the one for me’. Oh, ’she’s the one for me’ or ‘he’s the one for me’. How do you know for sure? Have you had many experiences with others and this one seems to ‘fit better’? What about people who have only been out with a few options; maybe their ‘one for them’ just fit their perception of not having to search the world to find ‘that one’ or because their other expectations weren’t macro dynamically based (ie. the high school sweethearts who get married)…maybe they WERE meant for each other because they didn’t open their mind to other possibilities. Also consider my Chapter on ‘When stars collide’ in my ‘Mens Guide to Women’. It may seem like fireworks at first because of the high energy and high level of passionate synergy, but after the honeymoon may come the crash (if you get a super ‘go-getter’); if not for her, then for you..just give it some time. Marriage should be natural and rewarding experience instead of a battle. You may find a lot of your freedoms being taken away. The one who is closer to ‘the one for me’ could be any of a million women, but ultimately I’ll just pick without putting too much objectification on who she is because living with a drama queen is going to completely prevent or distract my pure ability to produce and fulfill my goals. I have enough drama in my daily life and I will not accept it from any naggy woman, that’s for sure. Consider the long term implications of this for your own life..how much drama can you really put up with and achieve your goals? In the movie, ‘The Family Guy’, Nicolas Cage gets a chance to make the decision to keep his high school sweetheart. Instead of being a rich, powerful bachelor in NYC he gets to experience diapers and life as a tire salesman. Personally I think the movie is just trying to give some hope to the people who ‘did’ choose their high school sweety and have ‘family’ so they can dismiss the idea of leading a bachelor lifestyle. But my point is just to realize that different decisions and choices lead to different consequences. It’s neither right nor wrong for him to be the bachelor instead of the ‘family man’ because those are his choices…essentially this is a little chaos theory. No I absolutely believe Columbus did NOT ‘discover’ America (partly because I’m 25% Native American) but he DID start a chain of events that led to many many compound series of events on top of another. We could also talk about the movie Back to the Future, (but that’s getting too far off from this article). Try thinking about this when you see a supposedly ‘hot’ woman and the drama she could use to oppress your lifestyle longterm…maybe it was better to not follow that path. Keep your power to yourself and let her share in, if she behaves (or can be naughty from time to time). So back to the question of, ‘is there only one for me’? I don’t want to break the romantic streak in you, but I don’t think so, no. You can develop relationships with any number of women, and who you ultimately choose, is the one that you choose. You will have to make everything work from there because a real relationship requires commitment (yikes) and devotion. If you end up with an independent woman, you’re going to get a lot more than you bargained for (ask any divorced man). If you think about the romantic idea of finding ‘the one for you’…you’re probably too wrapped up in the idea (and dependency) of it. You will find love naturally anyways. You can be ‘the one’ for many different women, hey, honestly, I’ve done that before (as cocky as that may sound) just by being myself. Maybe it was my fault for leading them along a more ‘traditional’ relationship approach (but doesn’t everyone in the U.S. in our 50/50 paradigm?…this leads to a lot of heartbreak). But I was the one who broke it off but many wanted to have longer term relationships to fulfill their idea of…you know expectation, marriage… If you are an interesting, great catch yourself and know how to spark natural attraction in women, they’ll be trying to qualify themselves to become ‘your one’. Don’t take it all too seriously unless you’re thinking about marriage or you’ll put too much emotion or value into it which in reality doesn’t help things and will actually screw things up. Even when you are thinking about marriage, if the frame is set where it’s 50/50 or where she has control it’s going to be a challenge to keep it ‘working’ anyways. However, yes it always good to dream. But that also doesn’t mean you have to put all other women aside because you only want Shakira. There are other interesting and beautiful women out there who once they get to know you, may fall in love with you, or experience great sexual satisfaction with you (or both). A real relationship is going to be a lot of work, especially with an independent woman (sorry girls but it’s true)..there’s just more give and take on both ends. You can always keep your fantasies though (like Bill Engvall says, his wife woke him up and he was somewhere in the mountains with Shania Twain). Sex itself is just part of the balance of a relationship, your perception of a woman is most likely not who she is. You’ll find out she has so many likes and dislikes and interests it will be impossible to ‘match’. On the otherhand if you are looking for a wifey who can know her traditional role in the house and support you without stopping you from being the man you must be, she can balance out your energy instead just being the light and drama herself (like our American counterparts). You may have to look elsewhere for this type of woman, though there are still some left in the U.S. (but to me I’ve always found them more boring because they don’t have my interest level and energy like our independent women do). Copyright Dreamcore Productions, Ltd. 2005. Use of article is permissible as long as you make no changes or alterations of the content and include the unedited byline. Rion Williams offers a free newsletter subscription on how to have ‘natural success with women’ and dating. He is the author of the eBook ‘Mens Guide to Women’. You can sign up for his free newsletter by visiting Men’s Guide to Women and you will receive 2 free ebooks immediately. 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